In the rush and bustle of everyday life, we sometimes fail to ask the most fundamental questions of ourselves. Questions like 'who am I?', 'where am I going in life?', and 'am I the person I really want to be?'

Sometimes we reach our own realisation that the nagging background doubt we once had about some of these things, has now become a yawning gap.

At other times, it's traumatic events and life's unseen and unprepared for difficulties - illness, loss, relationship breakdown - that suddenly thrust us into this new and uncomfortable position.

However each of us got there, we know that the strain of 'carrying on regardless' places an increasingly heavy burden upon us. It is then we might want to stand back, take stock, and re-orientate.

From early childhood we develop behaviours and patterns of relating to the other people in our lives. These ways of relating, useful at that time, may not continue to be so as we age.

Whilst some of these behaviours will just no longer be required, others may be more harmful. They may be detrimental to current relationships, and continually prevent us from acheiving what we want.

And because they have become ingrained within us - a habit - we may find it hard to be, or think we can be, any different.